It is establishing a new habit, this takes a while.Yes - I'm finding this and being non-judgemental makes things lighter/easier - but more practice needed!
We are so used to judge ourselve the whole time and some of us do it quite harshly - it is just habitual bla bla which is unrelated to what is.
This becomes easier with the time too, and it is ok when one finds oneself caught up in the story, earlier or later who cares, the important thing is to realize it.It's interesting that when the stories are cycling, and are tied in with emotions, there just doesn't seem to be any space to notice anything outside the story - only later does one look back and gain a bit of perspective.
Clarity comes and goes, all is well.There are so many layers of story, that having a strong sense of clarity is still rare, but I think I don't mind as much - the fact that stories run, and sometimes get believed for a while, is kind of ok. Though at other times, it's frustrating.
And yes, isn't it amazing how the story is built up and how catching it is?
But with the time it gets less sticky. Just a bit friendly patience.
Try to smile whenever you find you are caught up in the story and congratulate yourself for noticing it. Noticing and relaxing out of the story again is one.
Anyway and always - there is nothing wrong with the story. It will go on running, why not? And still there is first a subtle change and later on a more poignant one.
Whenever you find something to share please do it and yes, smile more take the whole thing less serious.