Before I answer your questions, I want to describe something that happened this morning. I will be using "I" as a convention of speech.
This morning is a beautiful fall morning, sun shining through the red and yellow fall leaves. There was a strong feeling of joy in the pit of my stomach. But something was missing. I looked (thank you LU for the idea of looking) and found what was missing was the thought of ME. Just seeing, feeling. Direct and close - no separation, just experiencing.
Later in the day: Shopping for groceries, having conversations, working in a local park with neighbors cleaning up - very absorbed in the cleaning, shopping, conversing, but if I stop to take a look, still no me.
It feels like a very small thing, one change, but pretty amazing. My life continues - feels lighter (bad description, but good for now). Every now and then I look again and most of the time, no me. Sometimes thoughts of me, but almost instantly seen through.
Now for the questions;
The self as the Chooser:
How do you make decisions in your daily life? Describe briefly something you are happy to share with me. Take me through step by step.
Imagine two objects in front of you, e.g. coffee or tea, blue pen or black pen, salt and pepper, then sit and see if you can find the choice-point where you could go either way. Describe how choosing happens.
Shopping today - walking through supermarket, thoughts about what kind of fish for this week, thought that chooses, talking to clerk about my choice. The choice-point just happens.
The self in / as the body:
Are you the body?
No - the body exists, that's not me - there is no me - just experiencing the body.
Are you the mind?
No - in DE mind isn't experienced, just thoughts happening in an empty space you might call being, for lack of a better way to put it.
Does the body experience sensations and thought?
The body has pain, pleasure, etc. That is experienced, but not by the body.
The body doesn't think, thought happens and is experienced.
Much gratitude for your taking the time for this.