Thanks for the great clarification on question 1)
So now let's take a look at question 5...
I just wrote a load of text referring to stable and unstable mental states and the need to change etc but I then deleted it all as it occurred to me that in fact what is control pointing to? It is pointing to an illusory set of behaviours that some may label as control and others not based on different assumptions and labels to what the label of control is deemed as.
So my answer to this is control is some peoples diagnosis and labelling to what is happening. It is communication whether internal or external and a label that some may attach to a certain story.
I may be off track with this answer please confirm if so.
Could you give an example, (preferably from your everyday life rather than theory) of where, conventionally, it might be said that "I control" (something, events, whatever)? Obviously you have just said that control is an illusory set of behaviours but try to find an example or situation today in which 'control' appears to happen . Describe how it is seen now.
Could you do this for 'choice' and 'decision' too please? Some sort of example from actual experience which reveals what's going on (or not going on)? Thanks Matt.
All the best