Dear Annie, you are still under the impression that our goal is to stop thinking. But it’s not! Not at all. It’s not possible. There is no control over thoughts.but mostly felt like a fraud who was pretending not to think...to be honest.
It doesn’t matter whether thoughts are present or not while you are experiencing the coffee, or feeling the water on your skin while showering. Regardless of the presence of thoughts you can shift your attention to experiencing.
Let thoughts be there. Let them talk whatever they want.
You just have to shift your attention from the incessant stream of thoughts, to experiencing. That’s all.
Don’t try to make thoughts go away. That’s an impossible task.
Here is an analogy. Imagine that you are in a noisy cofe with your friend, and you are having a conversation in the midst of all the noise that is coming from other people talking, the noise of the coffee-maker maching, the music coming from the speakers. All sorts of sounds are there, and yet you still can focus on your friend’s face and voice and you can have a pleasant conversation.
So looking at experience is just like that. The noise is equivalent to thoughts. And the sound and the face of your friend is experience. You just ignore the noisy background and shift your focus to experience (your friend).
I hope that this analogy helps.
Yes! We all do the same. It’s very good that you can see this. It’s like living in an artificial and fictional reality, instead of living in real life. This is how we humans live.Today I was mostly aware of HOW MUCH i think with very little experience,
But experience is still happening when you are thinking. You are just focusing your attention on the thought-story, instead of focusing on experiencing. Now you have to do the opposite. Let the thoughts be there, and shift your attention to experiencing several times a day.
So it's about where the FOCUS is. On thinking, or on experiencing.
Exactly! Excellent observations! You are doing very well :)The experience of the spoon was so obvious with or without the thought.
The experiencing doesn't require any thought or imagination, it's not necessary and the experience is just that...an experience.
Experience is what is there REGARDLESS of thoughts.
Here is another exercise.
Close eyes and imagine that you are in your kitchen.
Look around, see where the things are.
Open cupboards, fridge, look through the window.
Visualise as vividly as you can, including smell, sounds, colours.
Open fridge and take something from there to eat.
Run tap water and put hand under running water, check if it is cold or hot.
Stay a few minutes in the kitchen observing.
Next, open eyes and go to the kitchen.
Do what you did in the first part.
See where things are, eat something, listen to sounds, run tap water.
Explore the kitchen and experience with the 5 senses.
What is the main difference between real and imagination?
How does the food taste in the imagination and reality?
How does water feel in imagination and reality?
What happens to the imaginary kitchen when you stop imagining it?
Can you make the real kitchen disappear just like an image can disappear?