Always remember: Keep it simply.
Yes, I agree, but stoping identifying with peoples behaviour that annoys me is very helpful :)
Who does the stoping to identify?
See, there is a difference between telling oneself to stop identifying with peoples behaviour, though there is nothing wrong with it, or the stopping to identify with the character called self/Jay naturally sets in.
The latter one is a process, it will come on its own in time.
It is always a good idea to just notice what comes up and accept it. No resistance, no pushing away - these two really might push the story to the front.
Is letting something go by exploring it a different experience to it growing, fulfilling?
Yes, see above.
Most people are ready to push what is away. If there is being annoyed then this is what just is. So explore it!
Take it, give it space and learn.
Letting go often, nearly always has the pushing away, "don't want to have" quality. It might go away, but it might come back.
You allow something to fullfill itself, like all the emotions which never had a chance to come to light, and it melts and is gone, never coming back.
See the difference?
Work with Jays story.
I think for the majority of people the self is powerful and you need to keep assessing what DE, blanks sensations are. However, someone in an extreme case could desensitise with their emotions/identification with life but wouldn't be stuck in DE
Lets have a look at DE.
It is the most broke down way we can describe experience with words. This is what helps to see what really is there or happens or what is plain imagination.
Think of a baby, with no words yet to describe what it feels, wants, senses and so on.
Try this, scroll down to BUTTERFLY STEREOGRAM, and try it.
There are two pictures at once, a whole picture full of leaves and a butterfly made of leaves before a wall of leaves.
It is relaxing the background of your eyes, or what is suggested in the text to see the butterfly.
Both pictures are there at the same time. One sees the one or the other, but both are the same one picture, they are there at the same time.
Same with story and not story.
Mull this over and start integrating, both is there.
Is story less valuable, minor to non story, no identification?
Is there a good and bad?