Is there an expectation here that seeing no-chooser should be constantly on 24/7?
Yes there has been, or at least that it should be easy to see or be accessible at all times.
So when it’s not looked at, a chooser comes out of its hiding place and sneaks in?
There is an appearance of a 'me' choosing (or 'suffering' etc), in thought, which arises which is identified with.
And when it’s looked at then the chooser is out of sight hiding somewhere?
No, there is a realisation through actual experience validation that there is no 'me' to make a choice'. it's not there at all. There's no 'me' as an entity which is choosing. The caveat around this is that during 'intense' periods, it becomes very difficult to look/validate.
There is either a chooser or not. If there is an entity (chooser) then it cannot be turned on and off. Or maybe it can?
When things are clear, the experience is that there is no chooser.
“this is not how it’s meant to be” – So HOW is it meant to be?
I understand that it's meant to be as it's meant to be and there is a reminder of this when things appear to be 'wrong'. Expectations appear to be being identified with causing me to not accept how it is when 'suffering', or 'me' occurs.
Are you after a state or a different experience than how IT IS?
I appear to be after a continuous state of ease or 'just happening' which is experienced on a regular basis. If this isn't how it is, it is deemed 'wrong'.
Is it REALLY seen that there is nothing to get this, or is this rather an intellectual deduction?
There can be a very clear experience of nothing to get this; just sounds, taste, stuff/everything, sensations being there (actual experience not happening to a body or entity). The best way to describe this would be an open spaciousness without any boundaries. I look and there's nothing there except for what is there.
When there are thoughts of “I don’t get it” – do you stop and ACTIVELY SEARCH for the I that doesn’t get it?
I can't say for sure that this always happens. I try to remain as aware and accepting as possible to absolutely everything which happens throughout each day (including unpleasant experiences) starting as soon as I wake up to the time I go to sleep.