Thanks for that.
You're still doing it wrong, though ;-)
We're not talking about the same thing at all.
You're approaching this as an excercise in morality, in becoming a better person, less judgemental, all of which is perfectly fine and good, yet it has exactly as much to do with what we're pointing to here as eating pie or making crossword puzzled. Seriously. It is completely irrelevant to what I'm trying to show you here.
I switch the self on and judge the apparel of some other shoppers but quickly switch it off when I realise Im in self mode.
This is not about switching anything on and off.
It's about clearly seeing that there is no self-mode.
There is no self at all.
And no one to switch anything on and off.
There is no judgements in reality in the sense that judgements are just thoughts. They carry no impact.
I'd say judgements are there in reality (of course there are- "I think that guy over there smells funny", that's a judgements and it does have impact- i.e. I treat him badly, evade him, whatever).
Again- this is the moral appraoch you're taking, which is fine and good in life- I'm all for less judgement, more tolerance and compassion, yet that is completely secondary to this.
The real question is: is there someone making these judgements? Is there someone who can decide which judgement to make or not to make judgments at all?
There is nothing to condemn.
Nope, that's exactly the wrong approach.
There is plenty to condemn- look- so much stuff going wrong, so much people behaving like idiots.
Look at what is assumed to be the *other* side of the mechanism: the condemner- the YOU.
There is no one to do the condemning.