Thank you Rob. Take care, S

Dear Rob, I think you should trust what you feel and do what you feel you should do. If taking a break feels the way to go next, go for it without feeling any guilt. I understand and I hope everything turns up well for you and yours. LU will be here when you feel it's time to go further. Let me know ...

Dear Rob, I think you should trust what you feel and do what you feel you should do. If taking a break feels the way to go next, go for it without feeling any guilt. I understand and I hope everything turns up well for you and yours. LU will be here when you feel it's time to go further. Let me know ...

Hi Rob,


I want to thank you for your patience and guidance throughout this process.
I’ve been concerned that I might be wasting your time

Nooooo, you're very welcome! I also had that concern when I was being guided but don't worry about me and take your time! Seriously. I'm enjoying this ...

Hi Rob,


What I’m noticing is that the looking doesn’t feel like simple curiosity — it feels more like seeking, with a sense of pressure to get somewhere or resolve something.

Yes, sure. But where can you go to see what you are looking for? Where would this somewhere be? Where could you resolve ...

Hi Rob,

I'm also doing inquiry at the moment. The husband told me that I needed to find a hobby so I've been reading and doing the experiments in Greg's Goode The Direct Path book (and I've also started learning how to play an electric guitar - go me!). Although Greg's an amazing guide it boggles ...

Hi Rob,

Thank you for your replies. Many people that come to the Gate struggle with the how to do this, where to look at and what to look for. You are very skilled doing all of that. Which is great!


A self will never be found, but the “checkmate” clarity of this still feels elusive. There is a ...

Hi Rob,

Well done, that's the way to go. Looking forward to know if you can find a real self :)

So it seems that clear seeing happens
Imagine you are talking to a friend and you want your friend to experience this clear seeing.
What would you ask your friend to do, so that he would be able to ...

Hi Rob,

Happy to know the exercise was helpful.


When I look at what I mean by “self,” it seems to refer to something like a centre of experience—something that feels like it is the one living life, reacting, becoming defensive, getting offended, making judgments. That still appears quite ...

Hi Rob,

Thank you for your lovely reply.


This pointed something out very directly. I can now see more clearly what you are guiding me toward—that the sense of self is similar to the imagined watermelon. It seems to be assumed and suggested by thoughts and sensations, but when I look for it ...

Hi Rob,

As always you're doing amazing. Even if you don't think you are. You may think something is missing but there is a lot of clarity in what you're sharing.

Well done. I love the hand exercise. It's a very simple direct way of observing if there is a self here, moving the hand, controlling ...

Hi Rob,

Thank you for that very detailed description of what is going on.

To me it doesn't seem that you are doing something wrong. You've been looking for a self and that's what you are supposed to do. At the same time it seems that you are applying a lot of effort and time doing this and ...

Hi Rob,

Thank you for your reply.

when I check each part individually — sound, vision, sensations — I can’t find a self in any of them.

How do you check each part? What do you do exactly?

Take care,
S

Hi Rob,

Thanks very much for your support with this
My pleasure.


I do feel that I am not using critical thinking and I am overlooking things that should be obvious.

That's funny! This would be easier if you didn't use any critical thinking.
You don't need to think to see there isn't a self ...

Hi Rob,


The fact that thoughts without a thinker can change how I feel for the better or worse means a life of happiness or struggle is out of any control whilst the illusory self runs the show.

How would a illusory self run the show?


I suspect that I have a belief that direct experiencing ...